Triangle driver keeps adding optional temple stops with tip boxes — refuse the next one or rewrite the day?

Optional stops are optional. A clear, polite line works: we are done with extra temples today — please stick to the agreed sites and the hotel. Tip boxes at shrines are for people who choose to donate; they are not a mandatory tour fee, and I will not invent an amount. Renegotiate once, kindly, before the next detour: list the remaining stops you do want. Good drivers reset; sulking is a signal you may want a different arrangement tomorrow. Keep the conversation about time and energy, not accusations. Photograph the agreed plan if it helps both of you.