Invited to a Sri Lankan wedding mid trip what does a foreign guest wear bring and expect
A wonderful surprise a family we befriended last visit invited us to their daughters wedding during our trip I want to honour the occasion correctly What does a foreign guest wear to a Sinhala Buddhist wedding what gift is appropriate and how is it given what happens at a poruwa ceremony and roughly how long does the day run I would rather over prepare than embarrass our hosts
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Lovely invitation so the full guest briefing for a Sinhala Buddhist wedding What to wear dress up this is a formal joyful occasion men a long sleeved shirt and trousers a tie or full suit is welcome at a grand wedding women a smart dress or outfit covering shoulders modest knee length or longer bright colours are celebrated AVOID white (it reads as funeral and mourning here) and avoid pure black for the same reason jewel tones and gold accents are perfect if you want to delight them a woman guest wearing a saree bought and draped for the occasion is received with enormous warmth the family will happily help arrange it The gift money is the norm and entirely correct given discreetly in an envelope (the shops sell decorative wedding envelopes) handed to the couple or placed in the gift box at the reception not opened in front of you a crisp note and a kind written line the amount scales to your closeness a generous guest gift not a fortune The poruwa ceremony the heart of it the couple ascend a decorated wooden platform the poruwa where the rituals unfold the tying of the little fingers with gold thread the chanting the offering of betel the breaking of a coconut the lighting of the oil lamp it is rich symbolic and photogenic watch quietly follow the room for when to clap and the drummers and the jayamangala gatha singers mark the auspicious moments The day length significant a wedding day runs long the poruwa at the astrologically auspicious time (sometimes early morning) then the homecoming and the grand reception with a long meal expect several hours pace yourself eat when fed and stay for the cake and the going away The single rule that honours your hosts arrive on time for the poruwa the auspicious moment is fixed by the astrologer and cannot wait for late guests
Bring a charged phone or camera but ask before photographing the poruwa rituals closely the family usually delights in it but the asking is the courtesy
The no white no black rule and the auspicious time being fixed by the astrologer are exactly the things I would have got wrong saree being arranged with our hosts help thank you for the thoroughness
Attended one last year as a guest the warmth toward the foreign guests was overwhelming we were seated near the family and fed first the saree effort the host mother nearly wept
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